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I went with my buddy Larry Rivera’s wife Erin, to help out and support a local event called Women 2 Women. Part of me did not want to go, though this single mama could have more than used a night out to say the least!
I was not sure what my resistance was, however it was not once of those gut wrenching feelings where I felt like my life would be in danger… So I went, anyways.
Shortly after arriving, I figured out why I was feeling like not showing up. It was because I was going to come face to face to a stereotype that I was all too well acquainted with.
What an abused woman should or shouldn’t look like…
See… The event was about promoting women through the arts as well as raising funds and awareness for domestic violence and its victims.
It all started with the host of the night, stating the woman who represented the organization we were helping did not look like a woman who should be representing abused women because she looked like a super model. She said what an abused woman looked like in her mind… However, I won’t go there though.
I spoke up and said why that’s part of the problem. Most people think, they know what an abused woman looks like or an ex-abused woman. And because of this misconception, many women who need help, never get helped.
It stung, it stung bad, because I was that woman… The one that did not look like she was abused. The one that was silently crying out for help, wishing someone would offer me a way out… And it never came.
Throughout the event, I kept thinking about that and yes parts of my life flashed before my very eyes. It was an emotional night. Tears welled up many times and I had a good cry when I got home and snuggled up to my daughter Jaya who was sound asleep. Part of me knew it would be hard to go to that event and that I had more healing to do on this part of my past… More than I realized.
However, I am glad I went because now I can help spread the word about not judging a book by its cover.
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Hi Jamie,
Thanks for having the courage to share your story!
Wonderful message; we all go thru tough times, some through hell. Some rough stuff that happened to me during childhood surfaced quite a bit during my current trip through India. We have loved the journey but seeing the suffering and death of animals and people around us, on such a large scale, forced me to become compassionate with myself, which automatically opened the floodgates.
I also because horrifically ill with a stomach bacteria issue; lost 25 pounds in 2 weeks! I was rushed to the emergency room and put on an IV and antibiotic drip. After 3 more weeks, I am recovering, but letting go my childhood repressions was a rough one, but OH SO purifying.
Kudos to you for sharing, once again.
Have a great day!
Hey Ryan!
I also had a rough childhood. I would love to hear more of your story, if and when you ever feel compelled to share it!
It’s interesting how things can trigger those memories and bring the pain and everything with it in an instant.
I’m grateful I went though, because we need to be aware of what areas we are still holding on to, so we can keep releasing the baggage.
Glad to hear you are recovering and pray you continue to heal fast!
And yes, it is purifying!
Have a blessed day Ryan. 🙂
P.S. The video is back up!
Thank you for sharing your story, Jamie 🙂
I completely agree with your points. We all have these little ideas about what is acceptable..what is wrong, what is wrong, how something should be and so forth, and we judge others based on those ideas (frankly, I don’t know whether I should hate my brain for judging others…but at times, it does help, especially to figure out whether a person is honest).
To me, it all comes down to interpreting our judgement…sure, it is okay to judge, but don’t blindly listen to what our mind has to say. Think about it, before we do or say something.
Anyways, thank you for sharing this, Jamie 🙂 And good luck with the rest of the challenge!
Hey Jeevan! How are you?
Thanks for stopping in and commenting 🙂
I don’t think you need to hate your mind… However, I do recommend doing a self check on why you feel the way you feel, because many times it is beliefs and opinions we picked up along the way from others and sometimes our own experiences that does not serve us.
Have a blessed day!
P.S. The video is back up!